Psychologist and Human Givens therapist Jane Firbank answers problem letters, offers many articles with practical advice drawn from the revolutionary new, science-based, Human Givens approach.
I can't get rid of guilt that I told a man I was pregnant, when I wasn't ...
I Keep Having Depressing Dreams
I'm tormented by images of my lost baby's father
Marriage has left me alone, with nothing to do, and I cry a lot...
I gave up my career to look after my husband's son, but his ex-wife is poisoning the boy's mind ...
I have been having panic attacks. Is there any way I can get Human Givens therapy in Utah?
My husband's been unemployed for four years, and it's threatening our 30-year marriage ...
My wife won't let me see our daughter because of a family feud...
We've had practically no sex since my husband stopped drinking ...
My husband's out of work and we argue a lot. But we still love each other...
I don't know what to do with life, it has become unmanageable...
I'm so busy with job and family, I feel I'm on a treadmill and I can't get off...
My husband's counsellor has told him I've been abusing him mentally...
I'm schiz-affective and so lonely. I'd kill for a coffee and a girly chat...
I need counselling as part of my training to be a counsellor...
I'm being so badly bullied I'm afraid to go to school...
Depressing dreams
For the past three or four years I’ve woken up at least three times a night with nightmares ...
traumatic nightmares
Unwanted sex dreams
Wedding Nightmares
I have such disturbing sexual dreams my wife is ready to throw me out of the house ...
I've suffered from severe anxiety attacks my entire life ...
I can't seem to stop eating no matter how full I am...
I've been having panic attacks since a car crash, though it wasn't serious ...
My daughter has panic attacks when she prepares food ...
I'm an addiction counsellor ... would the Fast Trauma Cure help my clients?
I can't forget being bullied at work, even though it was some years ago ...
I have nightmares about the beating which killed my unborn babies
I keep having nightmares of murder and loss
I was abandoned as a child and now it's so hard to pull the family back together ...
My family's full of hate and dispute over my handicapped brother ...
I need to end a taxic relationship with my adoptive mother, but it's so difficult ...
I'm just desperate to please my toxic family ...
I think my fiance's a porn addict
I've discovered his secret porn hoard and I feel hurt and betrayed ...
He's so proud, I always have to be the one to apologise ...
My doctor says I'm bipolar and he's God...
Sex chat-lines,chat-rooms, lies ... can I ever trust him?
Should I leave my husband for a married man ...
He's cheating on me, but I love him ...
I'm 40+, with multiple allergies, and dreading having to make a new life when my mother dies ...
Marriage has left me alone, without a job, friends or role, in a strange land ...
My husband comes home, gets stoned, and passes out on the couch. He blames it all on his father ...
I dream so much that I'm exhausted the next day ...
I can't keep this neighbour out of my life but she's so negative, she's jinxing me ...
I'm 19 and worried I'll end up in a dead-end job daydreaming about what might have been ...
I'm 17, I just crashed my car and everything in my life is a mess ...
How do I conquer a fear of failure and rejection?
I was abused and bullied as a child ... then, when I thought I'd found love, he walked out ...
My mother's constant criticism has split my family and left me keeping people at arm's length ...
I had a child adopted over 20 years ago. Now I can't stop thinking of the child's father ...
I can't make myself do enough homework, and I feel unmotivated and unfocused ...
I've been off work with child-care and now I feel nervous and inadequate about finding work again ..
I lost everything when a deal went wrong and now I'm depressed, panicky and without hope ...
Ever since a car accident, I lose my temper all the time ...
We're planning our wedding, but he's flirting on-line ...
I've lost respect for my husband and cringe at the thought of sex with him ...
My defensiveness is hurting my relationship with my partner ...
Now that I've finished college I'm depressed and panicky ...
I desperately want to leave my husband of 30 years for another, but I feel so guilty ...
My fear of failure is holding me back ... I keep thinking 'what if' things go wrong ...
I keep all my feelings inside and it's affecting my relationship with my partner ...
I once lied I was pregnant, and now I feel like I am carrying a hard ball of shame in my stomach ...
My husband's changed ... he's into drink and porn and my skin crawls when he touches me ...
I've helped my husband get where he is ... but he's starting to resent me ...
I had a baby adopted 20 years ago. Now I can't get pictures of the baby's father out of my mind ...
I'm so unsatisfied but my husband just doesn't listen to me ...
She's so shy, how can I help her to be more outgoing?
I supported him through his marriage breakup but now I feel so used ...
He's been promoted and just doesn't have time for me any more ...
I'm so stressed, how can I relax and get back in touch with myself?
I feel so strange and uneasy, as well as tired and unmotivated ...
Life has no meaning for me, there will always be suffering ...
I left my old job to change my life, but now I feel worse off and stuck ...
I'm a songwriter, but after a nightmare childhood I can't motivate myself ...
I'm tired of living and frustrated as hell. I'm an alcoholic and I've lost the meaning of life ...
I am underweight and I hate it ...
My wife has gained so much weight that I'm no longer attracted to her ...
I diet successfully, but I just can;t keep the weight off ...
I really need aome help to control my drinking ...
After three deaths in the family I've been told I'm bipolar ...
I'm dieting and exercising, but I've reached a weight-loss plateau ...
I've got good morals, but I'm terrified I may have herpes ...
My husband doesn't want children ...
I'm bipolar, in a miserable marriage, and I hurt ...
What does she mean when she says I'm too nice?
I'm 14, I feel lost and unappreciated ...
We fight like cat and dog and it's driving us apart -- but we still love each other ...
Am I justified in wanting nothing more to do with my cruel mother?
I'm a respectable wife and mother with a guilty secret ... I keep craving those little drinks ...
Nag, nag, nag ... that's all there seems to be in our marriage now ...
I'm in a conventional Asian family, facing an arranged marriage -- but I fear I'm gay ...
I have no social life and just stay in ...
I'm haunted by childhood rejection, and I don't know how to lay my ghosts to rest ...
How can I help a friend who's depressed and obese?
My father was abusive but my younger sister suffered most. Now I feel so guilty about that ...
My husband won't work and is pulling me down financially and ruining my credit ...
I've been in a rut since my son was killed 15 years ago, How can I move on?
I've been married to a cruel-tongued, sarcastic, negative man for 35 years ...
I was horrible to my ex and now he has nightmares whenever we meet ...
My husband is a serious procrastinator, and it's destroying our marriage ...
I am a professor and I must write and publish but I procrastinate ...
I want to go forward but a phobia and my partner are blocking me ...
Dozens of little things every day open up a torrent of painful memories which paralyse me ...
My partner doesn't want children, but I'm afraid to make a firm decision ...
My daughter has an eating disorder and panics when she tries to prepare food ...
I don't want a divorce but my husband say he's not in love with me any more ...
My husband and I are so cold to each other, I think we are both tired of fighting ...
Needing to do things perfectly is stopping me doing anything, and I'm so stressed ...
Now that I'm moving ahead in my career my husband is jealous and suspicious ...
I just don't feel right, stressed and miserable, at this time of year ...
How common is the Fast Phobia Cure?
Which man do I go on holiday with?
I can't build a loving relationship after a violent and abusive one...
I wake crying or screaming from horrible nightmares every night. I don't know what's causing them...
He was critical, bullying and controlling ...it's left me feeling anxious and threatened by men ...
I'm studying law. What books do you recommend to give me a general overview of psychology?
Don't Put Up With Putting Up
Test item for relationships
The Secrets of Making Love Last
Coping with criticism
13 Steps to Friendship
Toxic Families, Bringdown Friends
Stop Nagging, Start Respecting
Spot Those Hidden Putdowns
Stop Those Hidden Putdowns
What's Cluttering Up Your Life?
Don't Put Up With Putting Up
Brainworms
Six Steps to a Richer Life
Making the Most of Your Precious Time
What Panic Attacks Are ... and How to Stop Them
The Fast Phobia and Trauma Cure
How to Use Partner Power
How to Use Diary Magic
How to Make BUT Work For You
The Power of WHY?
Step 3 -- Getting Ready for Change
Step 4 -- Making Change Happen
Step 6 -- Refreezing
Step 1 -- How to Stop Denying ...
Step 2 -- How to Stop Just Thinking About It
Step 5 -- Maintaining the change
You CAN Change
Get Your Intuition on Your Side
Is Hidden Perfectionism Your Enemy?
Find Your Purpose
Are You Working From Your Strengths?
Coping with Cravings
Dieting Needs
Beat the Bully
What Are You Putting Off?
The Magic 20 Minutes
Getting from Stuck
Little Choices
Use the Magic Eye to Ease Weight Loss
How Your Dreams Make You Depressed